Sunday, July 5, 2015

Equal Citizenship: Walking from Back towards Back

Of course, my heart was broken when I read the draft constitution via facebook via Rabindra Adhikari. I was literally tear off and it was very spontaneous.  Many of my children, friends, and relatives from across Nepal are suffering from due to not having equal citizenship rights. They represent all gender, caste, region, religion and so forth. I don’t like to explain each detail now. I spent unlimited time to process for their citizenship.

I reflect the history of Nepal. In my 40 years history, I experienced everything; monarchy, constitutional monarchy, democracy, republic democracy and eagerly waiting to experience of federal republic democracy. It is huge change. When I compare with other neighboring countries, Nepal has jumped in policies in many ways. Regards to the women’s movement, no doubt, there are some changes in policies but merely absence of changes in daily life of majority of women in Nepal.  In terms of citizenship rights, now the country is walking from back towards back, completely from back, it is a clear and crystal picture of the condition of women in future.

The society is getting different shape due to globalization and other changes within and outside of the society. Many things are beyond control even tough to minimize. Nepal has already failed to enforcement of the policies and laws. It is ashamed to me how the political parties/leaders and government is itself visioning about the country by undermining the equality. Do they forget the notion of ` no women, no peace, no peace, and no development’? It is very obvious fact that many things or rights hindrances due to not having equal citizenship rights. It would be a big mistake in a history of Nepal if it wouldn’t take in account during finalization process of constitution.

There are more than dozen of reasons for not getting equal citizenship rights. I found few very critical barriers behind it; i) women don’t do the protest as other movement such Tharuhat, Madesh etc. , ii) the movement whatever taking place yet is deeply divided by 3 PS; politics, property and position.  Sometimes, I feel ashamed while going through even facebook update. The principle of `everyone boss’ is applied because each ready to provide suggestions, not ready for taking risks and ignore or escape if there is no any benefit e.g. money. Consequently, the movement is so fragile, unilateral and tapering till end iii) elite captured is the another big challenged. Anyone can lead the issue from the international experience but in Nepal, it has very big gap between have’s and have’s not.  Many Have’s not adopt elites but elites are falling to show such behavior largely. Taking photo with rural, poor or survivor is not evidence of that you are leading the issue of entire women or you are leading with empathetic mindset.  It is funny that many men are struggling with masculine character as given by society where as masculine women are always living with privileges. The shield was so thick to penetrate and reaching to the bottom that needs huge resources, strong wiliness and finally ACTIONs and iv) scarcity of leadership within women’s community. The so called women leaders are failed to capitalize the energy from bottom, more focused on individual vision or interest, the blindfolded followers of men folks. In many cases, they are forgetting their broader role of women’s movement and confined within a project, NGO, money, benefits and so on. Due to convolute with politics, the situation is really helpless and hopeless and long way to go to get equal rights in citizenships and everywhere.

When the draft constitution is denying the equal citizenship rights, the various forms of protest are in progress.  I do support to protest in a way and the other around.  I am working on it when I obtained it in 1990. Of course, I didn’t know much the advocacy groups/NGO stuffs during these days. It was so organic. I raised the issues of citizenship in various forums and lobbied, facilitated the process of it for many women in Jumla since 2001. I have enough evidences e.g. member of national women commission. I also spoke at national conference held in Hotel Radisson, I went there along with Durga Pokhrel, PhD in 2004. I knew many women leaders since then but they didn’t recognize me yet because I am from Jumla (Jumli), and I haven’t many things as elite and urban women possess. I have eaten dinner in couples of times at very specific places and time. I spoke the needs and values of citizenship rights in rural settings like Karnali. Many journalists were discussed with me about the gravity of it.

My story is only a representative story of many women who are working since the citizenship rights in Nepal 2019 BS in bottom. Our experts’ friends and expert’s journalist usually love to use the information but not like to know the potentiality and pain and always considered as ignorance, junior and incapable. In such circumstances, without having a single voice or unity, how Nepali women can possess equal citizenship rights.

The current protest is only for the protest, the same people, same actions, same mindset. How do we bring the change? Where the commitment papers are where as political leaders spoke, put their signature? Does any one analysis the amount of money spent for the citizenship in Nepal? How many times politicians attained the program, spoke, express their verbal and written commitment ….Again, is only a matter of women? Where are the young gender responsive male politicians?  Can women sit in mass hunger strike at national level? Can women who have connection or membership with political parties say no or resign from their political affiliation? There are so many unanswered questions to cross the limit of comfort zones.

Here,  the backward steps in constitution regards to equal citizenship right shows that men are in deeply hurt and seeking to protect their manhood by blocking it because there were all men in decision making process of constitution drafting process. Shame !

Venue: Shanta Susana, LA

Saturday, July 4, 2015


Commitment is always beyond words,
River flowing, wind blowing, can't stop
Can STOP the flows of wrong ideas, 
Can Divert the negative thoughts !
Commitment is always beyond words 
Human have anger, sorrow and grief
Human also have love, respect and peace
Commitments is always beyond words !!!

Thursday, July 2, 2015

The viral about Agriculture minister and its impact....

किर्सी मन्त्रिको भाईर लले उबजाएको .......

Photo: copied from,

Sorry for poor Nepali typing 
२०७२ साल एतिहसिक भुकम्पले मात्र बनेन कि असार पन्द्रको किर्सी मन्त्री हरी पराजुलिको हर्कतले पनि। देखे, सुनेका सबै कुरा सत्य हुँदैनन। तर जे देखियो राम्रो देखियो, परिनाम् पनि राम्रो भो सस्किर्ती तोडियो अर्थात नयाँ सस्किर्ती बन्यो। फेस्बुक, तुईटर, पत्र पत्रीका, टेलिभिजन मार्फत प्रमाण एकैछिन्मा भाईरल बन्यो । अधिकारका अकालत प्रती बित्रिस्ना राख्नेहरु पनि एकएक न्यायको मैदान्मा हिलो छ्यपे र फलये पुषतौ पुस्ता फल्ने फल। हिलो छ्याप्ने देखी कुर्सी पल्तौदा सम्मका बहस्ले सिङो नेपाली समाजको सामाजिक न्यायप्रतिको बुजाइ छर्लङ पारेको छ जुन सबै सचेत नागरिकको लागि खुराक हुन सक्छ वा पर्छ ।
एउटा एस्तो समुह देखा पर्‍यो जसले सम्मान खोज्ने दाउम आँफै सम्मान लिना लाएक रहेनन ।  फलाम ले फलाम पिटेझै भयो अर्थात अस्लिल्का  लागि अस्लील नै प्रयोग भयो।  जुन नहुनु पर्थ्यो दुर्भाग्य नै भयो। अर्को एस्तो जानकर समुह जो अधिकारका बारेमा ठुल् ठुला सभामा यौन हिन्सका बारेमा बोल्छ, फेस्बुकमा आफ्नो सक्ती र पद देखैरहन्छन, चुक्क पनि गरेनन, मुक्दर्सक बने । शायद उनिहरुलाई पनि पद् र शक्तिकै धङ्धङी हुदो हो। देस बिदेस जानेको अर्को समुह गर्ज्यो, गाउले सोझा महिलाको बिचार  प्रस्तुत भएन वा समाचार एकोहोरो भो। महिलाहरुको पो बेजत भो। पत्रकारिताको सिदान्तका हिसाबले सही देखिये पनि न्यायको दृष्टिकोन्ले निउट्रल देखियो जुन किर्सी मन्त्रिकै बच्चाउ हो भलै बच्चाउ गरे भन्ने नभुजेको होस्  केही जान्ने खुतिनेहरुले राजनीतिक अभिबेक्ती दिये भने यो अती रन्जना भो, राजनीतिक फोहोरी खेल हो राजनीतिक पार्टिले जे गरेनी हुन्छ, उनिहरुका घोषणापत्र जनता फकाउने हतियार मात्र हुन अर्थात जनता उस्तै छन   अर्को समुहले आफ्नो हर्कत देखायो महिल अधिकार कर्मी खै कहाँ गये ? महिला माथि हुने हिन्सा महिलाको मात्र सबाल हो, महिला ले मात्र ठेक्का लिनु पर्छ भन्ने बुजाइ। यो सामाजिक साझा सबाल हो,अझै पुरुशरुले नेत्रित्व गर्नु पर्छ भन्ने नि सुस्म ज्ञान कहिले आउने हो कुन्नी ? केहीले भने घरमा  आमा  दिदिबैनी  रहेनछन कस्तो मन्त्री ? आजका दिन्मा आउँदा पनि एस्तो सोचैले के नेपाल बन्ला? महिललाई सम्मान गर्ने घरमा आमा दिदी छोरी भएर होइेन महिला पुरुष जतैकै अधिकार प्रदत मनब हो भनेर कहिले बेबहार गर्दो हो यो समाज  
माननिय मन्त्री ज्युको कोलहल सुनियो, किशोर हैन, ६२ बर्षको बुदो अनी बुडापाका महिलहरु, कसरी त्यस्तो सोच्नु ? गन्तन्त्र नेपालका त्यो पनि प्रगतिशिल पाटिका नेता , अनुसन्धान आनुभव मा विश्वाश गर्ने कि नगरने ? पिन्ड खाने उमेर्काले  गरेको हिन्सा, हिन्सा हुन्न कि क्या हो? सार्वजनिक ठाउमा पनि हिन्सा हुन सक्छ ? मन्त्री ज्युका तर्क सुन्दा बैराग्नै छुट्छ ? आबज बिहिन्हरु, शक्तिबिहिन्हरु लाई सक्तीसालीहरुले जहाँ पनि शक्तिको दुरुपायोग गर्न सक्छन भनेर बामे काकाको प्रसीछन लिएको दिएको बिर्सेंछन कि क्या हो जस्तो   रमाइलो मुडमा थियौ, होलिमा रङ, असारमा हिलो खेल्नु स्वाभाबिक होरे मन्त्रिज्युको सफाइ। गीत, उखान, किताब आदी लैङिकमुखी बनैरहेका सन्दर्भमा अस्लील बोल्न , गर्न कसलाई छुट हुन्छ होला? के होलिमा रङ जसरी मन लाग्यो त्यसरी खेल्न पाईन्छ नियत राम्रो थियो, नराम्रो लागेको भये छेमा मग्छु रे मन्त्रिजु रक्सी खाएको थिए, बेसुर भये तेसैले बलत्कार गर्न पुगेछु हजुर छोडिनुस् ।।।।पुलिस सर भने जस्तो भएन ? यो सरासर मिथ्या कुरा हो प्रगतिशिल नेताले छेमा माग्न पनि कती कन्जुस हो ? अग्रगमी भाषान गर्नेले गल्ती स्विकर गर्न, छेमा माग्न कती गाह्रो हो ? यो सरासर पुरुस्वतवको प्रमाण भएन ? मिडियाले उचाइ थप्यो रे मन्त्री ज्युले भन्या, मिडिया धर्मले वा रिस्ले वा जे सुकै कारण्ले भएनी राम्रो गरे, बिशेषगरी यौन हिन्साका कुरा बाहिर आउन सक्दैनन, किनभने अनतत परम्पाराबादि अदालतले प्रमाण खोज्छ, पीडितको भनाइ नै पहिलो प्रमाण भन्ने भाषान मात्रै हो ति फोटो रिस्ले एनिमेसन गरेर बनएका होइनन भुज्नलाई पडेलेखेकैइ विद्वान चाहिन्छ
नेपाली समाजको सचित्र चित्रन हो घटना हो भिविन्न बिचार  हुन्छन नै तेस्मा पनि पित्रिसत्तालाई चुनौती दिने कुरा चान्चुने हैन    महिलाहरुले बोल्नु पर्दैन ? हिलोमा फ्याक्न सकिदैन भन्ने विद्वानहरु भेतिये के सबै महिलाले अहिलेको नेपाली समाजमा आफुलाई हिन्सा भएको अनुभव गर्न सक्छन? के अनुभव गरे भने सजिलै बिरोद गर्न सक्छन ? के नेपाली घर, स्कुल, समाजले नो भन्न सक्ने सस्कार सिकएको ? मन्त्रिको शक्तिको अगाडि खेत रोप्ने महिलाले नो भन्न वा हिलोमा फाल्न सक्छन ? बिरोद्का लागि बिरोद गर्ने सस्कार कहिले ढोलिदो हो     के पुरुस्ले बोल्नु पर्दैन ? तिनै फोटो खिच्ने पत्रकारले पनि बिरोद गर्न सक्दैनथे ? मर्द पुरुष त्यो जसले हरेक लैङिक हिन्साको बिरुदमा उभिन्छ मानब अधिकारको सम्रछन गर्छ नि हैन ?
एस्तो पनि पढ्न पाएयो, आगो आईमाई उस्तै हुन रे , महिला भन्नु पर्छ भन्ने कुरा फेरी पनि बिर्सिएछन क्या हो ? कसैले पनि प्रश्न गर्न आट् गरेनन के महिलाहरु साचिकै आगो हुन ? सदै आगो हुन्छन ? महिलाहरु पानी मात्रै के बरफ हुन तेसैले घर, कार्यालय, बाटो सबै ठाउमा हुने हिन्सका घटना घुट घुटी निलेर, जिउदै मरिरहेका छन   
अब महिलाहरुको पत्रकार सम्मेलन बिलौन पनि उदेक लाग्दो छैन ? एसका पछाडि धेरै कारण हुन सक्दैनन; ) महिलह्ररुले शक्तीवान मन्त्रिको माया लगेर तेसो भन्न सक्छन  कि उनिहरुलाई हेपिये, हिन्सा भयो भन्ने नै थाहा छैन जस्तो आज पनि श्रीमानले कुट्नु सामान्य हो नि ? दलित आँफै बाहुनका घर भित्र पस्न हिच्किचौनु एस्ता धेरै उदाहरण छन हामी कहाँ। ) महिलाहरुलाई राजनैतीक बच्चाउ गर्न त्यसरी गर भनिएको पनि हुन सक्छ वा महिला फेरी प्रयोग भएका हुन सक्छन । येति गम्बिर बिषय उठान गर्दा सार्वजनिक गरिएको फोटोको लागि अनुमती लिएको थियो कि थिएन होला ? कुरा सुन्दा छैन कि जस्तो छ के तेसो हो भने पत्रकारलाई चाँही यो ग्रान्टेड हो । 
जसले जसरी प्रस्तुत गरेनी सानो हिस्साले सामाजिक रुपन्तरन खोजेको भयो पनि। यस्तै सानो सानो हिस्सा बददै गये समाज बन्दै जान्छ सबैलाई, सबैले बोल्ने, पिल्सिएर बस्ने सस्किर्तिको बिकास होस्

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

असारको पन्द्रै पन्द्र

जिन्दगी घडी,
असारको पन्द्रै पन्द्र
गाजिएको पिडा,
दब्दबे हिलो,
न पानी,
न पखलिने .
भोक ? तिर्खा लाग्दैन,
निद पर्दैन,
जि पि एस नेविगेटर,
फएल ।            
झुसिलो, ड्यौउ,
धन्नै छाद्,
धामी पर्देश ।  
जुवाको खाल्जस्तो,
अहिले छ,
छैन फेरी !
फाली भाचिने,
मर्द मौन ?
६०१ देउता उत्रे,
खेत रोप्ने कसरी ?
डेरिको दही,
मिल्को चिउरा,
भाईरल  पाखला ।
थाम्ने कसरी ?
खेतला हिंडे,
अधिकार ?
भोग्ने कि भन्ने ?

Wednesday, June 24, 2015


I was born with Discrimination,
I grow up with Discrimination,
I work in Discrimination,
I am working on Discrimination,
I experience discrimination while working in Discrimination.

I am enjoying with Discrimination,
I will never give up working against Discrimination,
I am here by Discrimination,
I do fight for Discrimination,
I am sure that I would die with Discrimination.

We are Human Right Defenders

We are human right defenders,
We believe on HR principles,
We do work in collaboration and team.

We are HR educators,
We do protect everyone's right, 
We stand always for Gender Perspectives,

We are Human Right Activist, 
We do care,wherever you come from, 
We are together forever for cultivating HR culture.

Sunday, June 21, 2015

Towards Recovery and Rehabilitation from aftermath of Earthquake, Nepal

Life in Thatched houseWhen I was young, I always hated summer and monsoon. To me, these seasons were synonymous with storm, thunder, rain, lightening, hailstones etc. It was too hot, no electricity, and everything depended on nature. I was so scared to cook at afternoon because of wind and chances of firing.  My home was single room, thatched roof, was not only shook but also blown away several times. I was so depressed and unhappy with god (that time I didn’t know about the fact). The rain of summer was not polite, gentle and kind. Along with sisters, I always busy to put utensils such as glass, bowl; bucket etc. here to there due to leaking of roof though very limited utensils we had. Usually, dad, mom and elder sisters were outside of home; farm, forest or so on. My heart beat increased with tearing, running nose and severe headache due to falling down the wall of house, blowing up roof. It was made from straw, mud and bushy branches. I was cried and hurt badly several times due to soaked of my books. I kept on changing the place of my books. We, none of us had school bags, shoes and dress during these days. Usually, I was busy to dry my books, grains after impish rain. I didn’t know the value of rain well so I always prayed for absence of rain. I saw many disadvantages of rain; soaked while grazing the cattle, cutting the grass etc. We hadn’t had the extra clothes and umbrella to protect from rain. I still feel the fresh feeling of went to bed without having dinner or compromised largely. The bed was so called bed neither have clothes for lying down nor for covering. I remember these days where I was lying on floor at the side of foot of my mom and brother by using her sari partly. I had had tough time to negotiate with winter always.

Scene of rural communities: After 35 years back, majority of children in rural villages are still living with similar experience. They may have mobile, electricity (in some places) but the housing is the more or less same. More importantly, it is fueling by devastating earthquake April 25, May 12, 2015. In most earthquake affected districts #14, the houses collapsed like 180 degrees there was zero hope for getting grains, clothes, dishes and other many valuable things. Everything is broken, torn where the superglue, sewing machine etc. wouldn’t compatible at all. Many survivors lost their parents, siblings, houses and so on. Under a single tarpaulin, 2-4 families are living along with herds of goats, buffaloes. They are living with so many traumatic feeling, no way to express and no one ready for listen them.  Expression of feelings is also hugely manipulated. Without having family members, house, books, food, shelter, how people get peace through psycho social support though it is crucial element of holistic health. In Nepali context, the deprivations, depression, suppression are directly leads towards the psychological illness that usually ignored largely.

Strengths of Nepali society: In a course of two months of earthquake, the affected, rural communities are gradually moving towards recovery and reconciliation. Few families are already started to build a bushy houses by own their efforts at the fifth day of earthquake. It is priceless quality and strengths of Nepali community because they compromise many needs and interests due to extreme poverty, difficult geography and others factors. However, they need support to protect their stamina, resilience and avoid additional trauma. Their dreams were distorted and living with uncertainties due to tarpaulin livelihood. Shockingly, the tarpaulin is also not qualified as expected less than 10 mm, they have limited utensils and they are living with same or more level of pain, scarcities and starvation.

Of course, time is change means the government, politics and everything change at local and international level. There are many experts are working on it and taking the issues forward. The children, girls, women, older, disable, and other vulnerable groups wouldn’t face the same level of pain though personally this writer  doesn’t have much confident.

Meeting with International communities: Children and youth from today, #earthquake2015, would mark June 25, 2015  in the history of Nepal than April 25, 2015 due to having meeting with international communities for EQ response. The goal and mission is full with hope and aspirations though there are many schools of thought are swimming by referring the Haiti (e.g.Guardian, Nagarik national daily). The national identity is changing and recognized across the world as earthquake country followed by two big hits in between two weeks. This writer do aware that her effort is less than drop though she has living with panic feeling from her childhood, war, earthquake and all sufferings by thinking the people who severely affected by EQ specially women, girls, children, and other vulnerable groups in rural areas. Leaving country after 5 weeks of EQ was hard for her but it opened the opportunities to do more for same casue. Here, in Montreal Canada, she discussed with six friends from Haiti who are working in government and I/NGOs to share their practical experience on EQ response. The following points were taken as lessons learned;
  1.  Haiti had 7 Rector Earthquake in 2010, 230,000 deaths, 1.2. million homeless, 79,000 displaced
  2.  The solidarity of general public suddenly diminished while I/NGOs and UNs entered in Earthquake (EQ) affected areas whereas it was spontaneously evolved and was in actions at first.
  3. All together 5000 International communities entered in to Haiti with their own interest and directives. Sadly, they failed to mobilize local resources e.g. expertise from LNGOs and worked in charity model e.g. distributing relief materials and increased number of beggars and building begging culture due to not creating jobs and merely absence of support on their indigenous economic activities. Total 140 billion promised by the international community but only 30 % transferred.
  4.  The government was new and in transition, everything was new and no long term plan even after 2 years. Later, the action plan for EQ respond was on place but it was out of control, none of actors were taking in to account and government either.
  5.  The population of capital was increased by 30% due to all aid concentrated in it. In Many cases non-affected people were enjoying aid and in many cases the trafficking and sex slavery increased due to starvation. The voiceless and vulnerable groups and communities didn’t or improperly get support.
  6.  Local NGOs failed to establish accountability and lobbying to jump in from relief to recovery and rehabilitation associated with lack of coordination and unfair competition.
Reactions on Earthquake Response: In this connection, here this paper discusses writer’s observation and way forward regards to earthquake response for Nepal. As mentioned in this poster, the government is working in EQ response though people seen them at field after about a week. Government considered the EQ seriously, where it has already developed Post Disaster  Needs Assessment (PDNA) and inviting a grand international meeting in June 25, 2015. More importantly, the ever fighting political parties came in to consensus after 8 years for drafting constitution. In meantime, the government is heavily criticized by nationally and internationally on its credibility, leadership and rationalization of the steps. There were few evidences seen that corruption in relief distribution, heavy political influence, changing the directive for involvement of the I/NGOs. At last but not least the Supreme Court denying political parties 16 points agreement on drafting constitution.

In the side of NGOs, the LNGOs are engaged in relief work since third day of EQ whether they have fund or not. Many LNGO workers are jump in actions from Tarpaulins to Tarpaulins e.g. Action Works Nepal. INGOs/UN takes more time to jump in, majority of them seen in field only after 10 days. The I/NGOs/UNs heavily criticized as Haiti due to having high operation cost and heavy political involvement.  In relief work, no matter the actor; government, I/NGOs/UNs, individuals from diaspora community, the rural areas are heavily neglected, the vulnerable communities are in more dangers and the efforts are focused on charity instead of rights.

Towards Recovery and Rehabilitation: By considering the bitter realities from Haiti and our own two months experience, Nepal can take in to account and together Nepal can do;
1.       Bring back migrant workers- government has to provide the compensation as well as lobby with the respective countries specially Korea, Malaysia, and Golf countries
2.       Agriculture based employment- the conditional cash transfer and capacity building trainings has to provide to the families/communities as their contextual demands (no blanket approach) so they would jump in their regular business in facilitation of LNGOs
3.       Community lead construction-the local infrastructure such as schools, health posts would lead by the respective communities where LNGOs facilitating the process. The road, hydro, big public infra-structure would lead by the private sectors by strictly following the building codes.
4.       Government would more focus on monitoring of all actors, developing procedures and facilitating the process.
5.       Special program for rural, women, children, disable and other minority and marginalized groups would lead by LNGOs

In between, the process would be moving forward for constitution, and the local election and media would play very crucial role as watch dog as always. The environment and dignity always has to keep intact.

None of us can prevent or avoid the natural catastrophe but all of us can play important role in a way and other if we all considered the EQ as an opportunity. The emotions are important to extend the heart, hands and it is crucially important to do by each citizen but spending so many funds by unskilled person/organization is always more than danger for long term impact. Let’s make our mother land Nepal by ourselves.